How happy do you want to be?

What is ‘true love?’ What is friendship, in the deepest sense? What brings us a feeling of fulfillment on a personal level and on a professional level? (An inquiry from a reader of my blog and book.)

Response: Humbly and respectfully, I believe substantive insight into these dynamics can be realized by way of lovingly embracing the notion of Acting Without Acting, i.e., endeavoring to do the right thing for the right sake – without the need for selfish recognition or hidden agendas. It is in the wonderfully healthful spirit of true honesty, promoting of true happiness and true freedom…but most importantly, needing less and less to hide behind. It is in learning to better and better play the part of the unblemished witness to one’s internal and external environments – in a genuinely benevolent and altruistic spirit of deep and abiding true appreciation. It is learning to HONESTLY display oneself with dignity, decency, goodness, and grace…no matter what. It is SO very much about realizing that we are all so very much more in the same common boat than we so often think and act. It is SO very much about supporting others in their healthful goals.

There is a true love beyond, yet inclusive and in splendid harmony with, friendship, familial, and romantic love. It is the living embodiment of true forgiveness – forgiveness of ourselves and others, without the dire heaviness of significant co-dependence. It is in better and better alleviating the pernicious weight of hate, greed, and ignorance. It is SO much about enjoying loving sparkling spine-tingling feelings in interaction/harmony with others…a loving resplendent quintessential lightness of being. It is ‘true health,’ answering to what may be the greatest of responsibilities…making the world a better place (vs. tearing it down and/or just going along for the ride – giving up or not really trying). It is learning to more and more skillfully gather an impeccable appreciation of the bright beautiful light of life.

“Please ask yourself…when is the last time you had truly sweet and innocent, loving, spine-tingling real fun? As a child? Ever? What true joy it is – selfless…light…shared. It is back to The Garden. Oh boy!” — Dr. Glen Hepker (Copyright 2011)

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There comes a time…

It is likely that most of us have heard this old saying, e.g., “There comes a time!” If we so desire, each of us can decide for ourselves how this saying may apply to us at various times in our lives – more and more each day, even each moment. What does this saying mean to you? What does it mean to me?

How does this saying relate to learning to live life as a living loving art form? How does this saying relate to any serious notion of (deeply honest/sincere/loving) true appreciation? Consistent with the philosophy of the ages-old health/wellness arts that I teach, coach, and endeavor to follow, this ‘saying’ has a LOT to do with avoidance of (getting ‘stuck’ on) stagnant plateaus which, if we get stuck long enough, can be like a living death or purgatory (NOT in a spirit of wanting to sound ominous – but in fact, MAY actually ‘do us in’).

We have another old saying in our culture – it IS really important to ‘have a reason(s) to get up in the morning’…to WANT to get up in the morning. In this, I am speaking to the notion of GENUINELY feeling significant gratitude in getting up in the morning – benevolently so. I am speaking to the notion of really/truly WANTING the day, the evening…wherever/whatever one is doing. It IS possible that the more OR less reasons we realize (in wanting) to get up in the morning, to lovingly and appreciatively embrace the day, even each moment, can be a gauge of our quality of health.

Empirical studies have commonly set forth the hypothesis that, feelings such as frustration, anxiety, sadness, and anger can cause chronic illness, most particularly if such feelings become a way of life. This hypothesis has been redundantly researched, and in fact, it is actually no longer a hypothesis, it is an accepted fact. The ‘spirit,’ the quality of ‘heart’ in which we go about things can have a profound effect (positive or negative) on the quality of our health, sense of fulfillment, our outlook. A negative spirit/outlook is stagnancy, and excess stagnancy IS illness.

We are ALL so very much in the same common boat in this – throughout our lives we all get stuck on ‘stagnant plateaus,’ many, many, many times. Keys by which to ‘unlock the door’ of this crepuscular dynamic can be found in learning to more and more and more ask ourselves, “How long am I going to let this go on?” “How long will I avoid deeply/genuinely appreciating the lessons which are there (lessons I need and should want to learn)?” Asking ourselves ‘how’ and ‘what’ questions IS so important.

Mistakes don’t have to be a bad thing, they can be wonderful blessings if we don’t go on making them over and over forever: If we hold on to the same mistake long enough, it may just kill us. It can take a LOT of true effort/true strength to lovingly and altruistically embrace healthful change. It CAN be really ‘tough stuff,’ albeit this does NOT have to be viewed in a negative fashion. The greatest of insight and growth can often be realized and enjoyed when we allow ourselves to become sick and tired of being stuck…sometimes even pushed to the ‘precipice.’

Abbreviating significant levels of craving, desire, and fear of healthful change has a direct association with notions of true honesty, a level of honesty in which we learn to more and more skillfully ‘connect-the-healthful-dots’…needing less and less to hide behind, becoming less and less willing to fool ourselves. THIS ‘spirit’ is full of true happiness and true freedom. It is a SO light spirit, it is accumulating of light – maybe even ongoing sparkling spine-tingling/shivering ‘glimpses of Heaven.’

How good do I want to feel? How Bad? What levels of so-healthful mindfulness do I want to realize and lovingly sustain? How light and free do WE want to be, more and more free of the terrible weight of unhealthful/stagnant expectations – preordained/preset patterns of thinking (which are so limiting to our spirits)? How healthful do we want to be? How far are we willing to go to embrace the notion of ‘true health through true responsibility?’ Maybe we just need to look within.

I can only speak for me – you can only speak for you. There (hopefully) comes a time!

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In a Glimpse of Heaven…

Dr. Glen Hepker explores the tools for promotion of True Health:  He speaks about the ages-old Bright Beautiful School of Thought, explaining how the quality of our lives will be greatly enhanced once we learn to raise ourselves up by taking True Responsibility for our own health and wellbeing. In order to begin enjoying the blessings of True Health, Hepker says it is important to initiate ownership of the notion of the True Responsibility of Healthful Interaction - displaying dignity, decency, goodness, and grace in our interaction with others, AND figuring out how to truly mean it, No Matter What. He emphasizes the importance of Acting Without Acting – doing the right thing for the right sake without the need for selfish recognition or hidden agendas. He examines the Same Boat Theory, which sets forth that the primary fault of humankind is the notion that you are there and I am here.

Most especially, this health and wellness philosophy is distinguished by its remarkable, thought-provoking, and ingenious notion of coalescing ethics and morality and deeply-rooted insight/objectivity skills with conceptions of health and wellness, i.e., true health and/or true health through true responsibility. It sets forth that one cannot realize true health without the necessary and truly skilled attributes of deep insight, morality, clear objectivity – learning the true skill of being able to look within and without (into one’s internal and external environments), without fear, without preset patterns of thinking. It sets forth the importance of true honesty – gathering a level of objective insight that introduces one to the notion of needing less and less and less to hide behind.

Outlining the benefits of the Bright Beautiful School of Thought, the author guides readers down the path toward True Appreciation of the Miracle of the Moment…such healthful clarity being a significant aspect in realization of glimpses of heaven – loving bioelectric spine-tingling/shivering sparkling sensations AT WILL. This is a true skill that can be mastered while curtailing the pernicious weight of habitual cyclical thinking. Hepker sets forth the notion that one of the greatest gifts of all is that there is always room for improvement, versus the living death of stagnant plateaus.

In A Glimpse of Heaven, the author’s words modestly depict a beautiful, altruistic, benevolent, and well-rounded health and wellness philosophical way-of-life – while conveying a powerful message whose purpose is to humbly assist in making the world a better place.

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Is it possible for women and men to be ‘just friends?’ How important is it?

A question from a reader of my book: “Can men and women be ‘just friends?’”

Response: HUMBLY speaking as a REALLY dumb fellow…yes, I believe women and men CAN be ‘just friends.’ Respectfully, this may just be one of the ‘keys to the universe.’ I have splendid friendships with many women, in the here and now and historically. It doesn’t in any way have to be about sex. This may sound naive and quaint, but I don’t believe it is so. It is sad that we often miss out on what may be among the most splendid of blessings/gifts (female/male friendships). This is on every level, emotional, spiritual, and overall health/wellness…resplendently so.

Living in a semi-rural area (versus also having lived in a large metropolitan area for many years), I find that many men (especially) act like they have an intrinsic responsibility to (on some level) ‘hit’ on every woman, or they don’t feel like ‘real men.’ Humbly, I am no one ‘special’ or important, albeit I find that learned and/or cultural outlook embarrassing. Sex IS a SO splendid blessing, yet everything doesn’t have to be about that.

Please know that I’m not saying I am in ANY way some ‘sweet and innocent’ fellow…it is NOT the spirit in which I am setting forth my thoughts herein. That said, among the most splendid blessings in my life, is in being ‘just friends’ with many women, i.e., who I believe are most often the superior half of people. In having such friendships, I sincerely see this as a most splendid part of my good fortune.

Once again (and again, and again, and again, if necessary) quite humbly and respectfully, I believe it is SO much about a benevolent and altruistic spirit of dignity, decency, goodness, and grace…AND figuring out how to TRULY mean it, No Matter What! I believe it is SO much about a benevolent and altruistic spirit of endeavoring to do the right thing for the right selfless sake. I believe it is SO much about realization that we are so much more in the same common ‘boat’ than we often think and act. — Dr. Glen Hepker

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Michal Bick of the LA Examiner reviews my book…

Reviewing a ‘Glimpse of Heaven’ by Dr. Glen Hepker

A Five Star Rating

In the healthcare industry, Physicians serve to help patients alleviate/eradicate our illnesses. But what if individuals were able to prevent illness by having healthier internal and external environments? What would the world look like if every person took an active role in his/her own health and wellbeing?

Dr. Glen Hepker, who has doctorates in Psychology and traditional Chinese health arts, explores these types of questions in his book, A Glimpse of Heaven: The Philosophy of True Health. He gently advocates the mentality that growth is linear and how self-improvement can help make the world a better place to live in.

Board-certified psychiatrist Mark Lassise, M.D., encourages readers in his Foreward to keep an open mind when going through the book — To consider how medicine, psychology and philosophy can intertwine.

Dr. Hepker suggests “embracing healthful change” by focusing first on one’s internal world. This includes: thought patterns, interactions with others, the friends we prefer, the degree of exercise and nutritious dietary intake, etc. Does a human being feel heavier or lighter as a result of these choices?

With an enhanced awareness of one’s own decision making, a person’s quality of health could be better understood and then hopefully changed for the better. For example, what solution would promote health if heavy feelings arise after spending time with particular people?

Put another way, what steps can a person take to feel lighter? Perhaps by implementing this strategy, a person can make it a daily habit to prefer choices that gravitate towards a healthier and happier life.

He writes:

“Enforcing healthful change and thus a more and more healthful way-of-life is not simply just good for oneself – It is less costly to society and less harmful to the world at large: It makes the world a better place on multiple levels” (42).

By taking responsibility for one’s own health, a person can also encourage others who want to improve their lifestyle.

When considering preventative medicine, the philosophy of this book suggests another way to improve one’s quality of life. By having a new perspective to reflect on, it can very well benefit a person who is committed to personal growth.

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How healthful is it that our moods so often dictate the spirit with which we treat others?

What is the importance of treating people just as well in our worst of moods vs. just our best of moods (and figuring out how to TRULY mean it)?

“When describing the philosophy within the traditions of the health and wellness arts which I teach and coach, I commonly begin by defining the theory of the Bright Beautiful School of Thought, e.g., the principle that the world would be a much better and different place if more and more people took True Responsibility for their own health and wellbeing – in short, True Health Through True Responsibility. In practical application, a central feature of the Bright School of Thought theory and hence, True Health, is the True Responsibility of Healthful Interaction – the employment of dignity, decency, goodness, and grace in our interaction with others – AND figuring out how to do so while truly meaning it – No Matter What.

According to this theory, there are two things that we as human beings can absolutely control…the fashion by which we interact with others and the level of objectivity and insight we choose to employ with ourselves. In support of this thesis, is the concept that a clear gauge of one’s True Health is congruent with one’s ability to honestly display oneself with “dignity, decency, goodness, and grace” – inclusive of the realization that the quality of our interaction with others and the depth by
which we enjoy insight into ourselves is a primary gauge of our wherewithal to manage stress and anxiety (inclusive of stressors of ALL shapes and sizes).

In a fundamental sense, this notion is congruent with the Golden Rule: “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” It is just honest and healthful diplomacy, whether with a spouse or other loved one, a friend or acquaintance, a coworker, or with anyone we come into contact with – a store clerk or waitperson. If we wish to take True Responsibility for ourselves, it is the REAL CHALLENGE – No Matter What.” (Copyright 2011) — Dr. Glen Hepker

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Don’t look for angels…

Oh boy, with many, I am likely getting myself in trouble with making such a statement. Please know I don’t say it in a spirit of wanting to promote controversy. I am speaking to a notion of ‘true responsibility,’ and herein will hopefully do so in a humble and respectful spirit…loosely this being consistent with the saying, “God helps them that helps themselves.” In making the statement, “Don’t look for angels,” I am setting forth that you (I, and everyone else) BE YOUR OWN bright beautiful angel and make the world a better place: What a different world it would be, as more and more and more of us learn to see this as a True Responsibility.

Why is it that we so commonly look outside of ourselves for help, when we so quite often already have been given (and also have developed) the tools with which we can succeed in realizing/embracing reasonable (and even sometimes maybe what some may view as not-so-reasonable) goals and objectives. We often hope for some level of supernatural intervention, when in fact, if we only make the true effort, we CAN do it for ourselves. This hypothesis is NOT absolute of course, there quite likely are instances when levels of divine assistance may be in order. Albeit, in taking this a bit further, one COULD actually be right in saying that, when the help we ask for doesn’t come, maybe it is because we didn’t actually need the help: And maybe we’ve already been given all that we need. Admittedly, this can obviously get into VERY complicated dynamics, if delving deeply as such.

What doesn’t necessarily need to be quite so complicated, is that, if we choose, we may be able to take ownership of the notion that a GENUINELY deep spirit of appreciation/gratitude may be the ‘magic elixir’ or formula which can prompt us to take true responsibility for our own health and wellbeing. Again, what a different world it would be!

Maybe, in becoming our ‘own angels,’ we can become more and more healthful conduits between Heaven and earth – more and more splendidly healthful diplomats (and maybe one of the differences between the former and latter is that divine angels should be capitalized, i.e., Angels).

In practical application (i.e., more and more as a genuinely healthful way of life), isn’t this so much about doing the right thing for the right selfless sake – without need for selfish recognition or hidden agendas? Isn’t it so much about lovingly embracing the notion that we are all SO much more in the same common boat than we often think and act? Isn’t it SO much about treating others with a living loving spirit of dignity, decency, goodness, and grace – and figuring out how to TRULY mean it, NO MATTER WHAT? Isn’t it SO much about supporting others in their healthful goals? Is this much about what ‘true freedom’ would be – this wonderful healthful spirit? How free are the angels that we traditionally view as angels? Are their wings real or are they symbolic of such splendid levels of freedom? Maybe it is easier for angels to be so good…so healthful – but does that have to stop us from trying? Maybe the REAL reward is simply in the trying.

We sometimes hear the sayings, “What would Jesus do?” “What would Buddha do?” “What would Mary do?” Those who are attached to religions and belief systems as such, already have such profoundly impeccable role models…not unlike quintessential angels. How much effort is it worth, to emulate such bright and beautiful models? It is up to each one of us to decide. Once again, it is all about “doing the right thing for the right selfless sake.” How healthful and beautiful is that? How happy?

If there is a Heaven, a ‘key to the universe,’ a ‘sixth sense,’ they are all about true honesty, promoting of true happiness and true freedom…but most importantly, needing less and less to hide behind. It is a ‘glimpse’ of an existence where there is no time, no space, no distance, but most importantly once again, “nothing to hide behind,” all is known. Oh boy! — Dr. Glen Hepker

The Lotus Flower Blossoms (as set forth in Chapter XV – “True Freedom” of my book, A Glimpse of Heaven: The Philosophy of True Health):

“There is a place where, wherever you are there, whatever you are doing…no matter what, in any given moment, there should be nowhere you would rather be. It is where you are right now – and you have the ability to so deeply and artfully appreciate your life and its living…to connect one healthful insight to the next, and make them all one…learning to witness this already-existing truth.

In the wilderness of our existence…a place of budding flowers about, about to unwrap in a showing of perfect appreciation for all to thrive upon, we are the flowers which can blossom again and again in each season of our deeper and deeper insights…all connected…each better and more healthful than before.

It is not unlike Heaven…and it can become Heaven, with enough insight and appreciation. It takes quite a few sparks, glimpses – spine-tingling moments…as a way-of-life which becomes more and more purposeful…more and more without time or space or distance. More and more there is less and less to hide behind.” (Copyright 2011)

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